The BROJO Self-Development Pyramid

400 Self-Appreciation

Skills to Practice

  • Valued Living
  • Setting long-term goals
  • Work on the hardest Shame grid items level 5 (of 5)
  • Review and polish your previous pyramid levels
  • Apply love languages to your relationship with yourself

Family, Friend & Work Relationships

  • Focus your attention on the best relationships you have (80%) and then new relationships (20%)

In Romantic Relationships

  • Relationship-building
  • Deep honesty

Journaling Questions

  • How well did I live by my values today?
  • Where could I have done better?
  • How do I feel about the progress I’m making in my life?

Add questions that are specific to your long-term goals.

Self-Review

You are ready to move to the next level, when you can answer YES to all of these questions.

  • Are my past "failures" & scars beautiful?
  • Do I need anyone else to feel worthy?
  • Do I need anyone else's Approval?
  • Am I happy with who I am & my life?
  • Would I want to be anyone else?

The Pyramid

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The Self-Development Pyramid is based on the principles of schematic learning. Each level of skills is progressively based on the underlying skills - crawling, then standing, then walking, then running, and so on.

Key Points

  • Practicing skills and performing tasks at levels higher than you are ready for is 10X more difficult than necessary, is often wasted effort, and can lead to unhelpful failures.  
  • Investing in the lower levels pushes everything above them up, no matter how advanced you are in the pyramid. Invest in those fundamentals as much as you can.
  • The skills, journaling and progression questions shown here are for general self-development. However you can apply the pyramid to any area you want to develop, e.g. health, fitness, romance, social skills, or starting a business.
  • In different areas of your life, you’ll be at different levels of development.  Health, fitness, career, friendships, family, romantic relationships.
  • Like any pyramid, the lower layers are much thicker and more foundational. It will take time to work through those, but do not let that deter you- your progress will be exponential if you build a solid foundation in your personal development practice.