This one's for all the women out there who are in relationships with men.
I don't know what kind of Disney-princess conditioning you were subjected to when you were growing up, but too many of you think it's natural and normal to be coy, indirect and vague, hinting to get what you want from your partner.
I'll make it real simple for you to have a great relationship: just be direct.
Say exactly what you want, when you want it, in a way that couldn't possibly be misunderstood or misinterpreted. Whether it’s a birthday gift, what turns you on in the bedroom, or wanting to have a quiet night in together - just tell him directly. Talk like a guy!
Not only will you be way more likely to get what you want, you'll start to see that whole “romantic” notion of him having to guess what you want is just nonsense that ruins relationships.
I know you think it would feel amazing for him to just “get you” and to be pleasantly surprised at how thoughtful he is and so on. But you know what feels even better than that? Having a relationship where there are no communication break-downs, no covert contracts, no resentment build up, and no unreasonable disappointments!
If you start being direct with your man, he'll be bragging to his mates about how easy it is to be in a relationship with you.
Oh, and in case I didn’t mention it: you'll probably get what you want!
For more relationship tips, check out my longer article “How to break the cycle of codependency in a long-term relationship” here: