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Why Dangerous Things Feel Safe (and Safe Things Feel Scary)

If you want to get good at exercise, do it every day for 30 days until it becomes the new normal.

Then you’ll feel more comfortable exercising than not.

After that, you can dial up the amount of exercise you’re doing.

But first, just get it repeatedly on the ticket.

I often say to my clients: the most important variable is frequency.

Do something often if you want to do it a lot.

Don’t do it big — do it small, but do it often.

Want to get good at guitar?

Play every single day, even if it’s only for 30 seconds or five minutes. It doesn’t matter how long, as long as you make sure it happens every day.

Eventually, skipping a day will feel more uncomfortable than doing it.

That’s how you make it the new familiar.

Remember, discomfort comes from something new, not something dangerous.

We repeat dangerous things all the time without feeling uncomfortable.

How many of you drink alcohol? That’s very dangerous, and yet you feel totally comfortable with it. You feel comfortable getting into a motor vehicle — also incredibly dangerous — and yet you feel fine.

However, when it comes to going to a Spanish class, which is not dangerous at all, you feel unsafe or awkward.

That’s the key difference: new things feel uncomfortable, not because they’re unsafe, but because they’re unfamiliar.

To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here:

https://youtu.be/sdpCdQLnNVc

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