I ask people, to help them elicit their core values: What do you envy about people, and why?

This is to bring out the story they tell themselves about the values they should be living by—but, for whatever reason, they’re resistant to making those moves.

Determination is another common value. We see someone persist at something beyond the point where we would give up.

Maybe we've been conditioned to believe that things have to go well straight away—or else they're not worth doing.

Or we measure the wrong kind of data, like how well we’re doing at guitar based on how much people like our music, and so we run out of determination.

We give up way earlier in the process than a determined person would.

We don’t want to admit to ourselves, I should just keep doing what I’m doing and endure the discomfort of that.

So, we tell ourselves a story like: There’s no point to me continuing; it would have only gone even worse—even when we’re seeing progress when we are determined.

Honesty is another big one.

We tell ourselves all kinds of stories—that somebody has an advantage, or they’re being tricky, or whatever it is—but really, they’re just willing to be more honest than we are.

As a result, they have deeper connections, their business goes better, their career goes better, people like them more, and so on.

We don’t want to admit that that’s what they’re doing—because we’re very uncomfortable revealing who we are.

To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here:

https://youtu.be/Ww-wG0p2fGs

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