It’s by observing your behaviour—that is how your kids learn.

If you just focus on developing your behaviour into something you're proud of, the most likely outcome with your kid is that they're going to mimic and model that behaviour themselves.

Be what you want them to be—that’s the closest thing you can have to real influence, and it’s a great way to develop yourself.

If you're into self-development, focusing on doing this for your kids—modelling it—really helps you hold yourself to account.

You might go reaching for that chocolate bar, and then you see them watching you and go, You know what? I don’t want them to see me eating chocolate, because I want them to be healthy.

That’ll actually stop you from eating the chocolate bar far more effectively than if you were on your own.

One of the great advantages of having kids, when it comes to self-development, is that you've got a really powerful reason for doing it.

So try your best to reduce hypocrisy.

Look at all the areas where there are different rules for you than there are for them, and ask yourself why.

Why do I get to eat chocolate and they don’t?

Why do they have to be healthy, and I don’t have to be?

How come it’s okay for me to raise my voice to them, but they can’t raise their voice to me?

How come it’s okay for me to question their motives, but I get mad at them when they question mine?

Try to reduce the hypocrisy until you're on even terms.

I mean, you're still the leader of the family—they're still too young to totally take control of their lives, sure—but you want to get as close to it as possible.

You want as much autonomy on their side as you can allow. And then, try to achieve as much similarity as possible between the values you follow and the values you expect them to follow.

To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here:

https://youtu.be/uS6YmLC9LnA

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