People who have an agenda about me being harmed—I won’t answer any of their questions.

I won’t respond to any of their accusations.

I won’t even acknowledge that they’re really saying anything at all when they’re not staying on topic.

Then, I’ll just plow through like a broken clock.

I’ll keep repeating myself, and the thing I usually repeat is: I’m not going to change the topic. We’re talking about this and this alone.

They can go on with their big rant, big rant, big rant.

I’ll wait for them to finish—just cold silence—wait until they’ve run out of steam. And then I’ll repeat: I’m not changing the topic. We’re talking about this.

I’ll do this one more time, more than they can.

That kind of endurance and resistance, where every time they counterattack, you go cold and silent, then stay on point.

You simply outlast them.

You do it one more time than they can, and that’s it.

Now, if they bring up anything that seems relevant—like maybe my technique in the confrontation was too aggressive, or I’m being a hypocrite for criticizing them for something I do, and they’ve got a reasonable case—I’ll set that aside for a different conversation.

I’ll acknowledge that they do have something relevant and genuine to talk about, but I’ll still stand firm that this conversation is not where we’re going to talk about it.

This is a one-way boundary-setting exercise. This is not a shared discussion of our faults.

To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here:

https://youtu.be/63G0sSWfx3c

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