I just released a new video that digs into one of the most confusing dilemmas people face in relationships: How do you know whether to stay and fight for it… or admit it’s time to walk away?

Most people think the answer lies in how they feel—which is exactly why so many people make terrible decisions. Feelings come and go. Attraction spikes and dips. Life circumstances punch you in the face. None of that actually tells you whether you’re in a good relationship or a doomed one.

So in this video, I break it down properly. We start by untangling the mess around commitment vs. promises, and why people treat these two things like they’re the same. Spoiler: they’re not. Saying “I’ll do something” has nothing to do with actually doing it. Commitment is a behaviour, not a sentence.

Then I dig into the concept of loyalty, and why most people completely misunderstand it. Blind loyalty—“I’ll stay no matter what”—keeps people stuck in misery for years. Healthy loyalty is conditional. It’s based on the version of the person you actually committed to… not the fantasy future version you hope they’ll become someday.

One of the biggest issues I talk about is how people assume their partner won’t change. But humans always change. Every year. Every season. Sometimes dramatically. And if your relationship doesn’t take this into account, you end up signing a contract you can’t honour… or staying in one that isn’t even the same contract anymore.

I share a story from my own life that really illustrates this—something a married friend told me years ago about how long-term love actually works. That conversation shattered all my romantic delusions. It turns out even great relationships have valleys where you might not even like each other for a while. But good commitment acts like a bridge—you keep showing up with respectful behaviour even during the low points, instead of reacting impulsively to temporary feelings.

And this is where people get stuck:
They can’t tell the difference between a normal valley and a genuine red flag.
So they either leave too quickly… or stay way too long.

In the video, I lay out the mindset shift you need to make sure your commitment is values-based, not emotional, not delusional, and definitely not blindly loyal.

If you’ve ever been confused about your relationship, if you’re currently torn between staying and going, or if you simply want to understand what healthy commitment really looks like so you can build something that lasts, this is one you don’t want to miss.

👉 Watch the full video here and then reply to this email with your thoughts:
What’s one sign that tells you a relationship is still worth fighting for?

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