Never say “Yes” if you feel unsure — or if you really mean “No.”
A lot of Nice Guys are just agreeable.
They’re sort of easy-going… or at least, they pretend to be.
They tell themselves they’re cool with everything.
But here’s the principle:
Unless you’re excited about something, start with “No.”
That doesn’t mean you always have to get your way.
This isn’t “my way or the highway.”
It’s not that dictator-type vibe you hear about in Red Pill spaces.
It’s just that you’re no longer going to pretend to be easy-going.
You’re going to stop lying to yourself and others just to keep the peace.
Another principle:
She’s allowed to be mad at you — for as long as she wants.
Her anger is her situation, not yours.
If you’re okay with what you did, and she’s angry about it — don’t change.
You’re okay with it. That’s enough.
Now, if you’re not okay with it, then do change — but not to stop her from being angry.
Change because you’re upset with your own behavior.
The only changes you should make to your behavior are when something breaches your own principles.
Do not change who you are to make her happy.
It might look like it works in the short term…but it’s devastatingly unhealthy in the long term.
She might seem like she wants you to do this — but I promise you: she actually doesn’t.
To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here:
https://youtu.be/XsIZzcplMMM
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