If you're not finding someone who's, as I say, "facing north"—someone who’s facing the same direction as you, working on themselves in a similar way, or at least supportive and encouraging of that kind of work—you’re going to grow apart from them.

This will eventually create friction.

As an extroverted nice guy, I used to have a lot of people I called friends, but I wasn’t deeply connected to any of them. Very few would have gotten up at 3 in the morning to come rescue me from a drama or something like that.

They weren’t real friends. They were just people I thought of as friends.

Looking at my current self, I’m only in contact with about 5 percent of them. The rest have faded out of my life.

It’s not because they’re bad people, or because I was surrounded by narcissists like some people might assume.

It’s just that as I changed, they didn’t, and in that process, I realized I had been surrounding myself with people who matched my lower psychological health level.

To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here:

https://youtu.be/Xh53HntaARM

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