Nice Guy Syndrome describes men who view themselves as nice but are actually psychologically unwell.

They are essentially struggling mentally and socially due to childhood trauma. Their niceness is a coping mechanism for surviving socially.

It's all about motives.

The key difference between a Nice Guy and a genuinely generous person lies in their reasons for their actions.

A Nice Guy wants to avoid confrontation, conflict, rejection, embarrassment, or humiliation.

They seek to suppress negative emotions and develop a reputation as a good person.

They avoid taking risks, leading, or making decisions.

They prefer things to stay comfortable, enjoyable, predictable, and controllable at all times.

They want to prove their worth to others and be seen as talented, resourceful, reliable, successful, interesting, entertaining, or kind.

Their goal is to make people like and love them, to make others happy so that they, in turn, feel happy around them and perceive them as good people.

Ultimately, they seek approval and validation from others and aim to remove all hassles, struggles, emotional discomfort, and obstacles.

Above all, their primary motivation—whether they admit it or not—is to emotionally control others.

To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here:

https://youtu.be/PoMZW8t5GGY

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