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My partner does not do self-development, and it's beginning to affect our relationship. What should I do?

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... My partner does not do self-development, and it's beginning to affect our relationship. What should I do? ...

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"I am back with my ex-GF after 3 years of not being together. In those 3 years, through self-development work and coaching undertaken with Brojo I became more self-aware, faced and overcame fears, became more shameless and learned heaps about relationships, sex, dating and communication skills. In those 3 years my GF did not 'grow' that much from a self-development / self-awareness perspective and now I've been able to 'see' and identify her low self-esteem / low self-worth issues, to the point that it's affecting our relationship. Should I point out to her that she 'work's on her issues? Should I try and 'coach' her without her becoming aware of it? Should I wait until she 'solves' her issues before moving on to marrying her?"

Relationships are full of challenge, and among these is the reality that each of the people in the relationship is continually growing and changing. When one person is actively pursuing growth, and the other is not, how do you deal with this?

Here we look deeply at four questions;

  1. Should I marry someone whose "self awareness" level feels lower than my own?
  2. Why am I uncomfortable with this? 
  3. Should I coach my partner, secretly? 
  4. How can I help my partner and other people around me to grow?