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Making people happy is bad: stop people pleasing!

You think that making people happy is a good thing, and means that you're a good person... right?Have you ever stopped for a while to question that?"Making people happy" is the term we use to describe selfishly manipulating people's emotions into a range that we think they enjoy (and will therefore like us more), and that we find more comfortable to be around. And while we're doing this, we tell ourselves that somehow this is noble and even that it's some form of self-sacrifice, like they're benefitting more from this than we are.In fact, there are people who get angry at me for suggesting that making other people happy is selfish and harmful. We're so conditioned to believe it's good to manipulate other people's emotions that we will defend this behaviour aggressively!Have you ever considered that maybe it's actually ok to let people have and process normal human emotions like anger, sadness and confusion? But nice guys and people pleasers can't help but fix people's emotions.In my latest video, I challenge the concept of making others happy, and talk about a more honest and helpful way to interact when someone isn't feeling "good"

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