Prevention of ostracism, rejection, abandonment, loneliness,humiliation
Anxiety is fight/flight response – heightened sense of risk
Extroverts = showing off, performing, attention seeking
Introverts = shyness, withdrawal
Link between social situations/people and danger. What are you afraid will happen if it goes wrong?
Reinforced be behaviour – how you react to this threat confirms or denies it
Self fulfilling prophecy – e.g. nervous = shy = bullying target
Confirmation bias – small events are given significance
See this as overcoming fear, no different to overcoming a fear of spiders
First, you must clearly ID what exactly you’re afraid of and what might make that happen (eg how to you behave to avoid/fight this risk)
Desensitisation – must have low pressure (min effort – any fear will do), an exit strategy, and a reward for trying
Frequency is more important than quantity
Go into fear until there’s none left
Get a coach like Dan, Mike or Dave to accelerate the process and remove the beliefs that hinder you – coaching 3 months vs 5 years alone
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