When it comes to finding friends, what I suggest is this: instead of trying to find people, try to find activities that really make your heart sing—the stuff you really wish you had always been doing.

If you don't know what that is, then go randomly sample things.

Go to open nights for courses, try improv comedy, go for a hike in a weird place, travel to a new country—just mix things up until you find something that clicks for you.

Really, draw random ideas out of a hat.

There are websites where you can look up good hobby ideas, and you can just go try them.

You might be like, "Okay, hey, archery—alright, I'll go try archery," and it might be the thing you've been looking for your whole life.

You won't know until you try it.

So, start with activities that you really love—activities that, especially, draw out your values.

If you've got the value of courage, then you're looking for an activity that makes your heart pump, puts you under challenging pressure, and requires some sort of competitiveness or risk-taking.

You might get into MMA, rock climbing, or hell, even chess—just something that challenges you.

Then, you're going to find other people who like a challenge and therefore live by the value of courage, too. So you've upped the likelihood of finding people that hold that particular value.

Whereas, if you were to find something very safe, like a book club, you're probably not going to find people there for the primary reason of being courageous.

To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here:

https://youtu.be/64CwSVSakrc

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