Let’s say you hold back on giving someone negative feedback — because you don’t want to hurt their feelings, right?

What’s the long-term cost of them not receiving that information?

Let’s say they’re making a mistake.

If you don’t give them feedback, are they likely to fix the mistake…or repeat it?

Your silence gives them consent.

By not saying anything, you’re essentially patting them on the back and saying, “Keep doing what you’re doing — it’s working for you.”

And if that’s not true, then you’ve lied to them by withholding that information.

You’ve probably allowed them to form a long-term habit — one they’re blind to.

Because if they knew what they were doing was wrong, they would’ve changed it by now — or at least noticed.

If they’re not mentioning it, it’s in their blind spot.

They literally don’t know they’re doing something wrong.

So later, when this bad habit ruins their relationships, damages their career, and leaves them frustrated with a lack of satisfaction in life…how exactly have you helped them by keeping quiet?

Let’s say you allow your pessimistic friend to whine and complain about their situation — even though you know they’re the cause of their own misery.

They’re the common denominator in all their problems.

You’re frustrated with them — but you still condone them.

You say, “Oh, poor you,” because you want them to think of you as compassionate.

But, what damage have you done by withholding your true feelings about what they’re doing?

You’ve reinforced their victim mindset.

You’ve patted them on the back for self-sabotaging and self-sacrificing behavior.

How exactly that makes you a good person?

To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here:

https://youtu.be/qNdkj-0WT00

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