If you check off a lot of these boxes, you almost certainly have Nice Guy Syndrome:

• You are dishonest to get a better outcome.
• You falsely agree with people to avoid conflict and make them feel good about you.
• You use covert contracts.
• You expect people to just know how they should behave around you.
• You struggle to initiate sex because of a fear of rejection.
• You hide your own preferences and opinions for fear of offending others.
• You back down from aggressive or assertive people.
• You overachieve and go beyond the call of duty at work or when entertaining friends, anywhere you're judged by others.
• You fake laugh or otherwise show approval when you secretly disagree or dislike someone.
• You ruminate on why others don't like you and try to figure out how to win them over.
• You sacrifice yourself for others' needs, even when they could do it without you.
• You treat strangers better than you treat your loved ones and family.
• You have what I call Green Light Syndrome—always waiting for encouragement, permission, or leadership from someone else before you make a move.
• You quit things that are unlikely to lead to quick results or that feel difficult or confusing, especially if you're not immediately the best at them.
• You punish people with sulking or indirect expressions of emotion.
• You exaggerate or otherwise add fiction to the truth.
• You stick to what you're good at or find easy, avoiding challenges.
• You stay in friendships or relationships without really loving the other person.

If you recognize many of these traits in yourself, you can be sure that you need to look into this further.

To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here:

https://youtu.be/PoMZW8t5GGY

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